About 6 months in to our marriage we had a pregnancy scare. It turned out to be nothing, but because of it, we decided to stop trying to prevent a pregnancy. So now we have been married for four and a half years and no kids yet. We started talking about adoption about two years ago. We had been to a few doctors appointments trying to figure out what the problem was. We decided to keep trying and see what happened. We felt like adoption would be really difficult and we just weren't sure we could do it. There were times when I felt like I was ready to go down the pat of adoption, but Kit wasn't ready. Then there were times when Kit was ready and I wasn't. Another year later we had more doctors appointments and more frustrations. We had been talking to a few people about adoption and other people's experiences. We had a friend at church whose brother had adopted and had a wonderful experience. On Father's Day we ended up in the hall with him for about an hour talking about it. When we left church that day we talked about it and both felt like maybe we should start the process. We decided that we could spend lots of time and money on fertility treatments and be no further than we were that day, or we could start on the adoption process and once we have a child we could continue with fertility treatments. We decided we didn't want to wait any longer to start our family. As soon ad we made our decision it was like huge wait off of our shoulders. I don't think I stopped smiling for two days.
We talked about how and when to tell our families. We didn't want everyone to know, but we did want our parents and siblings. I told my mom on Father's Day, the day we decided. I told her that we didn't want everyone to know yet, especially because we knew it would be a few days before we could tell Kit's family. By the end of the week, my entire extended family knew. Apparently my mom is not very good at keeping secrets. Kit's mom had the best reaction. We were in her backyard with her and her husband. Kit told her and she started jumping up and down and squealing. It was really nice to know we had support from our families. Not everyone was as excited, but we have amazing support from the majority of our families and we know that everyone will be more supportive once the baby is actually here.
We started filling out our paperwork as soon as we decided. Anyone who has ever done an adoption or home study knows that there is a lot of paperwork. We ended up doing more than we needed to because we ended up having the agency do the home study instead of the person we originally planned on. So, we started our paperwork on Father's Day, and finally on November 21st we became active with our agency. Now we are just waiting for the right baby to come along. We have put it in God's hands and know that it will happen according to His plan. Oh, and as you can probably guess, no one that we told about the adoption is very good at keeping things on the down low, so everyone we know knew about the adoption before we even became active.
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